"Six Ways to Make People Like You"
Rule 1: Become Genuinely interested in other people 1) "Do this and you will be welcome anywhere." 2) "You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you." 3) "Ask questions to other people , questions that they would enjoy answering."
This rule gives very clever points on how to communicate. That i s also the number one key to making people like you. When you make assumptions about others you only think about it based on their looks. Yet we really dont give ourselves the chance to go and talk to a person before making assumptions about something that might be the complete opposite. When you start showing interest in others they begin to think about you as a friendly person. Which is the actual goal to let them know that you are open to anyone and talk to anyone. Sometimes people like to be recognized or feel good about something they did. Which is why always ask questions that they would like to answer. Be appropriate and dont ask to the point to make them uncomfortable. Make people feel important by your presence and words.
Rule 2: Smile 1) "Actions speak louder than words , and a smile says, "i like you. You make me happy. I am glad to see you."
2) " You dont feel like smiling? Then force yourself to smile."
3) " It creates happiness in the home , fosters good will in a business, and is the countersign(witness or indication) of friends."
Rule 3: Remember Names 1) "A man's name is to him the sweetest and most important sound in any language." 2) "If you don't remember names, you are headed for trouble."
This is a very important key to making someone feel special. When you dont know a person but want to ask a question, figure out their name before asking them. It makes them feel noticed and present. sometimes it seems hard to remember names of people but sometimes we can repeat the name once it is told to us at least three times. It wouldn't be nice if in a presentation or in a ceremony you are given the name of the person being mentioned or recognized and you forget. It would make you look bad and make the person feel unnoticed.
Rule 4: Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves. 1) "If you aspire to be a good conversationalist , be attentive listener." 2) "Remember that the man you are talking to is a hundred times more interested in himself and his wants and his problems than he is in you and your problems.
This rules explains a lot because sometimes we say we listen but yet we dont. We know what the other person is saying but we are not putting in interest or importance to what the other person is saying. When someone else is talking to you about their problems or something that is going on with them just learn how to listen. What i mean by that is that give the other person your fully attention. Look straight at the person as they talk to you.It makes the other person feel like you care and that is a win win. You win their trust and you win a friend. People always talk about listening to others and how listening and helping others will help you. When you have won someone's trust what they like to do is start opening up but just like how you like talking to that person about other things then you have to learn how to listen to their problems. Also it is very important that you ask before they tell you.
" Helping others reach success and happiness you get closer to your success and happiness."
~ Ivette Coyote ~
I think when it comes to listening to people i do that very well i feel like i help other by giving them advice. A lot of my friends always come to me to ask me for my opinion on many of their actions or decisions before they do them or take them. I think i am on track with this rule but will work my way with the others
Rule 5: Talk in terms of the other man's interest "The royal road to a man's heart is to talk to him about the things he treasures most."
One of the keys, if not the most important one to building successful relationships is your ability to show a sincere interest, in both the person and what is important to that person.It is valuable to someone when they let others know about their interest and their values. which is why it is important that when someone is talking to us about their interest we look attentively as they speak maybe ask questions as to how they feel about it and why is it that it is important. Not only does that make them feel comfortable but it makes you look interested in what the person is saying. We might never know when is it that we need that someone to talk to which is why we shouldnt ignore anyone and always listen to what that person has to say, because when it comes to your time we might need of someone just like they do.
"Listen for thy when you need to be listen the odds are on your side."
Rule 6: Make the other person feel important--and do it sincerely. "The desire to be important is the deepest urge in human nature," (John Dewey) "Helping people feel important and appreciated works magic."
Once you experience someone else happiness or success then you know you are few steps away from your happiness or success. It has been said in every research that the percentage of people tend to do better or work better when they are happy. The brain just works better when it is given that satisfaction of accomplishment. Sometimes that happiness can be done by just smiling to someone. That might just make them feel better to them it might not just be a smile it might be a "its ok everything will be fine." Making people feel like they exist is very important because you are giving them your attention. Once the person has eyes on them they feel noticed and makes them feel good.It doesnt take money, sacrifices, or gestures that take you from doing the regular to just let someone know that they are important. All you have to to do is give them a simple compliment remember some goals they told you something they shared with you and ask how is it going so far.
"To love and be loved is to feel the sun from both sides."
~ David Viscott ~
I feel like i learned a lot from these six rules because they give us ways on how to socialize. Many people dont know how to even start a conversation or how to talk to someone because they fear rejection from the other person. which it shouldnt be like that because we can't assume without knowing for ourselves the truth. Others dont even know what is the definition of a friend, sometimes we feel we need someone to talk to someone who can listen to you the way you listen to others but just you might not be listening to them enough. If a person doesn't give you their attention is because they feel like they are building that trust wall which people are afraid of because they fear that they might get hurt by others. Unless that is how i see it. Sometimes i rather people not even talk to me because i have enough to deal with already, but it shouldnt be like that. I now know that in order for me to not fee that way and have that someone to talk to without making them feel the way i think they feel is by making them my friends first. Not always will we trust every person we talk to but that is why the more people you talk to the better it is for you.
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